TRUE LOVE - FACT OR FICTION?

I recently wrote my first ever novel and it had a romantic theme running through it. It was nothing like my latest novel, which is a plain, out right romance novel. Writing it has made me question a few things about love or the whole concept we have of love in General.

I am no expert when it comes to the love department and I, myself, found it ridiculous that I was inspired to write a love story. Considering that I am one of the least romantic people on the planet earth.

Anyway. I just wondered if the things we read about and so many write about, is perhaps true in some way. Is it really possible for two people to fall completely and utterly in love? Caring, respecting and devoting themselves to only each other? I talked to a few people on this matter and I got mixed opinions.

1. Most felt that it is just our hormones that get the best of us. That we as humans, are so afraid to grow old alone that we are willing to put up with anything and anyone, just so that we wouldn't have to end up alone.
   
   
2. Another opinion was that there are just certain people who get drawn to each other. That their natural chemistry is undeniable.
   
   
3. Then there is my favourite, the theory that some people are just meant to be together, that they are soul mates.

Scientifically, number 1 is probably correct, number 2 as well, but personally, I find it to be a bit crude and anticlimactic. I personally find number 3 more believable. No, not everyone meets their soul mate, in fact I doubt that I ever would (me being anti-social and all that). But does it possibly exist? My mother swore to me she thought my dad was her soul mate and after he died, a part of her died too. My mother's best friend and her husband are still happily married. Not to mention at least two of my aunts who are still happily married to their husbands. They tend to be those couples that when they are together, they make you feel kind of uncomfortable, just being near them.

On the other hand, you get the couples who look really happy and seem perfect, but behind closed doors, there are all kinds of turmoil. I know a few couples like that too. Now I ask you, which one is the truth? Is it possible that some couples just don't work out because they take matters into their own hands, instead of waiting for fate to intervene on their behalf? Or is the whole love concept total crap and it's just a matter of chemicals and all that other scientific mambo jumbo?

I believe true love exists, I just don't want to be like so many that was proven wrong and left angry, hurt and betrayed. The books make true love sound so amazing and possible, as if it is something that is just out there waiting for you. But is it really? How many times do you have to fail at it, to find it? Is it worth getting hurt? I don't know, but I am too much of a coward to find out.

But I know one thing. If you're a realist like me, it's not so much about what the opposite sex says to you, but it is what they are not saying. For example, I hate pick up lines and one that I have heard a lot was ''Your so beautiful'' or ''Your so cute''. Now here is my translation of that statement. The person is trying to make you feel good about yourself, probably sensing you are insecure. So they tell you the thing they think you want to hear most. Personally, I just get ticked off at that statement, because the person doesn't think your smart, funny or talented, now they are demeaning you by implying the only thing you have going for you, is your looks. So in reality they just insulted you.

So be careful of who you let near you or into your head, I think. And one other thing. At least the romance novels gives us a guideline of what we should look for. I know it is all make believe, but if you like a guy that respects you and you find the opposite, then why date him? Look or hold out for the one that does have what you are looking for. You decide what you allow people to do to you, you and you alone.

All I know is that this love thing is complicated and very few of us get it right. But it is out there. If only we had the patience for it. But like I said, I am too much of a coward to find out. For now, I am happy just giving my fictional characters their happy endings, instead of finding my own.

Steps to getting Published - Janet Evanovich

Steps to getting Published - Janet Evanovich

This is very good advice and I thought I would post it on my blog for other aspiring writers to read, who like me, might be in need of some guidance.

EVERYONE WANTS TO BE A WRITER

I have been talking to a few friends lately and almost all of them want to be writers. Like me, many of them have been writing in secret for many years and also like me, want to pursue their passion further.

I understand my families lack of tolerance for my writing ambitions, because what makes my writing any different from the thousands of other people, who also wish to be writers? My answer? I personally believe that every writer is different, because it has been scientifically proven, no two people think alike, so applying that to writing, everyone writing is also different.

Just think about it. No writers perspective is going to be the same as an others, unless you stole their ideas. You might think of vampires as the bad guy, while someone else might think of them as the good guys. Yes, writing styles might be the same, but not the creativity or the perspective, from which the writer writes.

If I think about it now, it is actually quite easy to understand why there is so much competition in the writing world, because everyone wants to be a writer. Some just want the fame, others the money and there are the rest of us, who just want your work to be read. Sure, getting paid for it helps, but having the opportunity to write something, that to you is a work of art and having others read and appreciate it, just as much as you have is the goal or milestone.

The sad news is even though all of us want to be writers and all of us try, only a very few of us will succeed. So the how do we know which ones? The best that any writer can ever do is to make sure that your work is in the best condition (No spelling errors and stuff like that), but other then that you have to hope you have one hell of a query letter, a lot of luck and tons of perseverance.

MY WRITING IS GOING WELL

I am so proud of myself today. I started with the planning of my next novel last week but I have been feeling so driven and inspired lately that I started writing. I have already finished about 70 pages. I am one of those people who, when they write, get so drawn into the story that once I begin, it's almost impossible to stop.

I have applied for a new job (Telephone operator/ Administrator), but it's been a week and I haven't had a reply yet. My family is getting worried that I am so caught up with my writing that I am stalling on getting a job, which I am not doing.

But my true dream is to be a writer. I love the planning that goes into writing the novel and inventing the characters. It is very therapeutic for me. It just feels so liberating when you can just cut yourself off from the real world for a while and live in a made up one. You can give your characters the freedom to do what you can't and have them for fill the tasks in life you failed too. When you write you're in charge. You decide what happens and what does not and there are no limits. All you need is your imagination.

SOME PEOPLE JUST NEED SENSITIVITY TRAINING

Don't you just hate it when your on an emotional high and someone brings you down to earth hard? I do! I hate how someone can just say one bad thing to you and it blows your emotional state right up, into tiny little pieces.
As you know I lost my dog recently and my big brother, the sadist that he is, decides to forward me this heart wrenching email about a dog at a local vet, looking for a owner.

When I read the email I already started crying and when i call to confront him about it, his answer was '' Well, I just thought you could replace the dead one with this one'' Honestly! That is one of the most insensitive things that you could do to someone who just lost their best friend.

MY FAVOURITE QUOTE

I just thought that i would share my favourite quote with you. One that I had stumbled across last year and that stuck in my head. It just so happens to be the new motto of my life. Enjoy.

''No one can make you feel inferior without your consent'' - Eleanor Roosevelt

WONDERFUL IDEA'S

Today I am blessed with so much inspiration that my primitive human mind can hardly keep up. I have so many ideas for possible stories, dialogues and characters. I have no clue where the sudden inspiration is coming from but I am not complaining. The only problem I do have, is making notes of them before they disappear.